Were you one of those kids who were always blamed for something you didn’t do or just the aura you give off makes you an easy target to be?  Maybe throughout your life, or even as an adult, at home, at work, etc?

In a typical family setting with multiple kids.. there’s often the “the favorite” “the rebel/trouble maker” and, maybe the “the middle/in between.”  The stereotype is that the favorite is spoiled, the youngest is spoiled, the middle is “the middle,” and the oldest is the scape goat, (since they are supposed to be the role model of the younger ones).  I guess the rebel could be anyone.. maybe more so the older sibling because of the pressures of being a role model, or the middle sibling, because they might feel lost in between or seek attention.

I was the youngest but definitely wasn’t spoiled.  People might find it funny, that I was dubbed “the trouble maker” regardless if I did anything or not.  So I was the scapegoat.  But don’t worry, there is hope,  I turned out OK.

Whether or not it may have happened to you either as a kid, it exists in the real world as adults either in the office or as seen in the media  (e.g. wars, politics, disasters, etc).  Where there is conflict, there is someone that people are going to blame.

So what do you do when you’re the scape goat?  You can try to clarify your side of the story.  But what if no matter what you say or do, you’re dubbed the scape goat?   There are two options: you can either withdraw from the situation,  or do something about it.  I don’t think you should withdraw, but instead, take a stand, unless it is beyond your control that the situation would only escalate– in that case, maybe it’s better that someone else manages the situation.  But if there’s something that you can do to help resolve the situation, then perhaps that will help solve the problem and prove your innocence.  But whether or not you’re able to prove yourself, what really matters is that you know that you have tried your best.  I know that sounds so cliché, but it helps us come to terms with ourselves.

If you realize that you’re the one who finds yourself frequently blaming a “scape goat”… well I guess I’ll save that for another entry.
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